The York Press article - Feb 12, 2008

"If you can make them laugh, it really helps"

The divorce lawyer

North Yorkshire family lawyer Marilyn Stowe specialises in divorce. She has been happily-married to Grahame for 26 years and has one son, Ben "A sense of humour is really important in a relationship. If somebody can still make you laugh, that really helps. A show of affection is also very important.

"Sexual attraction fades and gets replaced by deeper feelings and continuing to appreciate these feelings is important.

"And spending time away from somebody can make you realise how much you care for them.

"I see people who seem to think the grass is always greener. I see people who have allowed themselves to be swayed by passion for another person.

"There is usually a sexual reason for the breakdown of a marriage.

"It sounds a bit old-fashioned, but it helps if you have belief in good and bad and right and wrong. It's easy to get divorced and we live in a materialistic society.

"People assume they can have it all. If they want it, they go out and get it, irrespective of whether it is the right thing to do.

"Because people have such frantic lives, people don't always have time for each other.

"That's why if they meet another person at work or at their gym, it can arouse a passionate sexual attraction and people can mistake that for being the same or better than what they have at home, and I'm not convinced that is right.

"If you can get through the difficult times you can save a marriage.

"The danger in any relationship is to let it pass by without thinking about it."

Marilyn has more relationship advice in her internet blog at www.marilynstowe.co.uk

 

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