{"id":25,"date":"2022-01-27T11:33:25","date_gmt":"2022-01-27T11:33:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stowe-prospects.uat.tclstaging.com\/?page_id=25"},"modified":"2022-03-24T22:55:19","modified_gmt":"2022-03-24T22:55:19","slug":"thinking-about-separation","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk\/client-support\/thinking-about-separation\/","title":{"rendered":"Making the decision to separate"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n    \n        <div id=\"additional-content-block_620270f69a3b8\" class=\"additional-content\">\n\n            \n                            <div class=\"content-additional\">\n                    Divorce and separation can be tough. Nobody starts a marriage or relationship thinking about divorce or separation. However, any relationship can encounter problems. Some couples work it out, some get stuck and others separate. There is no right or wrong.\u00a0 Divorce or separation is a personal decision and only you can decide what\u2019s right for you and your family. But before you decide, have a think about the following:                <\/div>\n            \n            \n                <div class=\"accordion\" id=\"accordionStowe\">\n\n                    \n                        \n                        <div class=\"accordion-item\">\n                            <h2 class=\"accordion-header\" id=\"headingelement8283891\">\n                                <button class=\"accordion-button collapsed\" type=\"button\" data-bs-toggle=\"collapse\" data-bs-target=\"#collapseelement8283891\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"collapseelement8283891\">\n                                    <div class=\"title-button\">\n                                        <svg xmlns=\" http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"19.493\" height=\"20\" viewBox=\"0 0 19.493 20\">\n                                            <path id=\"svg_xml_base64_PHN2ZyB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciIHZpZXdCb3g9IjAgMCA0NDggNTEyIj48cGF0aCBkPSJNNDEzLjEgMjIyLjVsMjIuMiAyMi4yYzkuNCA5LjQgOS40IDI0LjYgMCAzMy45TDI0MSA0NzNjLTkuNCA5LjQtMjQuNiA5LjQtMzMuOSAwTDEyLjcgMjc4LjZjLTkuNC05L\" data-name=\"svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciIHZpZXdCb3g9IjAgMCA0NDggNTEyIj48cGF0aCBkPSJNNDEzLjEgMjIyLjVsMjIuMiAyMi4yYzkuNCA5LjQgOS40IDI0LjYgMCAzMy45TDI0MSA0NzNjLTkuNCA5LjQtMjQuNiA5LjQtMzMuOSAwTDEyLjcgMjc4LjZjLTkuNC05L\" d=\"M23.838,40.5l.991.991a1.067,1.067,0,0,1,0,1.513l-8.673,8.678a1.067,1.067,0,0,1-1.513,0L5.965,43.008a1.067,1.067,0,0,1,0-1.513l.991-.991a1.073,1.073,0,0,1,1.531.018L13.611,45.9V33.071A1.069,1.069,0,0,1,14.682,32h1.428a1.069,1.069,0,0,1,1.071,1.071V45.9l5.124-5.379a1.065,1.065,0,0,1,1.531-.018Z\" transform=\"translate(-5.65 -32)\" fill=\"#fab500\" \/>\n                                        <\/svg>\n                                        <span>Talk to each other<\/span>\n                                    <\/div>\n                                <\/button>\n                            <\/h2>\n                            <div id=\"collapseelement8283891\" class=\"accordion-collapse collapse\" aria-labelledby=\"headingelement8283891\" data-bs-parent=\"#accordionStowe\">\n                                <div class=\"accordion-body\">\n                                    <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you sat down together and really discussed your relationship? Not argued or bickered but talked it through, honestly.\u00a0 We often make assumptions about what other people feel however you may find your partner is in a very different place to where you imagined.<\/span>                                <\/div>\n                            <\/div>\n                        <\/div>\n\n\n                    \n                        \n                        <div class=\"accordion-item\">\n                            <h2 class=\"accordion-header\" id=\"headingelement3974176\">\n                                <button class=\"accordion-button collapsed\" type=\"button\" data-bs-toggle=\"collapse\" data-bs-target=\"#collapseelement3974176\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"collapseelement3974176\">\n                                    <div class=\"title-button\">\n                                        <svg xmlns=\" http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"19.493\" height=\"20\" viewBox=\"0 0 19.493 20\">\n                                            <path id=\"svg_xml_base64_PHN2ZyB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciIHZpZXdCb3g9IjAgMCA0NDggNTEyIj48cGF0aCBkPSJNNDEzLjEgMjIyLjVsMjIuMiAyMi4yYzkuNCA5LjQgOS40IDI0LjYgMCAzMy45TDI0MSA0NzNjLTkuNCA5LjQtMjQuNiA5LjQtMzMuOSAwTDEyLjcgMjc4LjZjLTkuNC05L\" data-name=\"svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciIHZpZXdCb3g9IjAgMCA0NDggNTEyIj48cGF0aCBkPSJNNDEzLjEgMjIyLjVsMjIuMiAyMi4yYzkuNCA5LjQgOS40IDI0LjYgMCAzMy45TDI0MSA0NzNjLTkuNCA5LjQtMjQuNiA5LjQtMzMuOSAwTDEyLjcgMjc4LjZjLTkuNC05L\" d=\"M23.838,40.5l.991.991a1.067,1.067,0,0,1,0,1.513l-8.673,8.678a1.067,1.067,0,0,1-1.513,0L5.965,43.008a1.067,1.067,0,0,1,0-1.513l.991-.991a1.073,1.073,0,0,1,1.531.018L13.611,45.9V33.071A1.069,1.069,0,0,1,14.682,32h1.428a1.069,1.069,0,0,1,1.071,1.071V45.9l5.124-5.379a1.065,1.065,0,0,1,1.531-.018Z\" transform=\"translate(-5.65 -32)\" fill=\"#fab500\" \/>\n                                        <\/svg>\n                                        <span>Be realistic<\/span>\n                                    <\/div>\n                                <\/button>\n                            <\/h2>\n                            <div id=\"collapseelement3974176\" class=\"accordion-collapse collapse\" aria-labelledby=\"headingelement3974176\" data-bs-parent=\"#accordionStowe\">\n                                <div class=\"accordion-body\">\n                                    <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The perfect marriage or relationship does not exist. There will always be good and bad times. The key is balance and making sure that what matters to you both \u2013 works. Ask yourself, is what I get from the relationship worth more than what I am giving up?\u00a0 So, if your partner is messy and untidy but an amazing father \u2013 which one matters to you the most?<\/span>                                <\/div>\n                            <\/div>\n                        <\/div>\n\n\n                    \n                        \n                        <div class=\"accordion-item\">\n                            <h2 class=\"accordion-header\" id=\"headingelement573361\">\n                                <button class=\"accordion-button collapsed\" type=\"button\" data-bs-toggle=\"collapse\" data-bs-target=\"#collapseelement573361\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"collapseelement573361\">\n                                    <div class=\"title-button\">\n                                        <svg xmlns=\" http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"19.493\" height=\"20\" viewBox=\"0 0 19.493 20\">\n                                            <path id=\"svg_xml_base64_PHN2ZyB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciIHZpZXdCb3g9IjAgMCA0NDggNTEyIj48cGF0aCBkPSJNNDEzLjEgMjIyLjVsMjIuMiAyMi4yYzkuNCA5LjQgOS40IDI0LjYgMCAzMy45TDI0MSA0NzNjLTkuNCA5LjQtMjQuNiA5LjQtMzMuOSAwTDEyLjcgMjc4LjZjLTkuNC05L\" data-name=\"svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciIHZpZXdCb3g9IjAgMCA0NDggNTEyIj48cGF0aCBkPSJNNDEzLjEgMjIyLjVsMjIuMiAyMi4yYzkuNCA5LjQgOS40IDI0LjYgMCAzMy45TDI0MSA0NzNjLTkuNCA5LjQtMjQuNiA5LjQtMzMuOSAwTDEyLjcgMjc4LjZjLTkuNC05L\" d=\"M23.838,40.5l.991.991a1.067,1.067,0,0,1,0,1.513l-8.673,8.678a1.067,1.067,0,0,1-1.513,0L5.965,43.008a1.067,1.067,0,0,1,0-1.513l.991-.991a1.073,1.073,0,0,1,1.531.018L13.611,45.9V33.071A1.069,1.069,0,0,1,14.682,32h1.428a1.069,1.069,0,0,1,1.071,1.071V45.9l5.124-5.379a1.065,1.065,0,0,1,1.531-.018Z\" transform=\"translate(-5.65 -32)\" fill=\"#fab500\" \/>\n                                        <\/svg>\n                                        <span>Write things down<\/span>\n                                    <\/div>\n                                <\/button>\n                            <\/h2>\n                            <div id=\"collapseelement573361\" class=\"accordion-collapse collapse\" aria-labelledby=\"headingelement573361\" data-bs-parent=\"#accordionStowe\">\n                                <div class=\"accordion-body\">\n                                    <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can help you see things more clearly when they are staring back at you in black and white.\u00a0 Why not try the below to get you started? <\/span><br \/>\r\n<br \/>\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">List the pros &amp; cons of staying together versus separating. List where you want to be in five years: what you would like life to be like? How can you get there? <\/span><br \/>\r\n<br \/>\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How does your relationship fit into this future?\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is your biggest fear about ending the relationship?\u00a0What\u2019s your biggest fear if you stay together?<\/span>                                <\/div>\n                            <\/div>\n                        <\/div>\n\n\n                    \n                        \n                        <div class=\"accordion-item\">\n                            <h2 class=\"accordion-header\" id=\"headingelement4136317\">\n                                <button class=\"accordion-button collapsed\" type=\"button\" data-bs-toggle=\"collapse\" data-bs-target=\"#collapseelement4136317\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"collapseelement4136317\">\n                                    <div class=\"title-button\">\n                                        <svg xmlns=\" http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"19.493\" height=\"20\" viewBox=\"0 0 19.493 20\">\n                                            <path id=\"svg_xml_base64_PHN2ZyB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciIHZpZXdCb3g9IjAgMCA0NDggNTEyIj48cGF0aCBkPSJNNDEzLjEgMjIyLjVsMjIuMiAyMi4yYzkuNCA5LjQgOS40IDI0LjYgMCAzMy45TDI0MSA0NzNjLTkuNCA5LjQtMjQuNiA5LjQtMzMuOSAwTDEyLjcgMjc4LjZjLTkuNC05L\" data-name=\"svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciIHZpZXdCb3g9IjAgMCA0NDggNTEyIj48cGF0aCBkPSJNNDEzLjEgMjIyLjVsMjIuMiAyMi4yYzkuNCA5LjQgOS40IDI0LjYgMCAzMy45TDI0MSA0NzNjLTkuNCA5LjQtMjQuNiA5LjQtMzMuOSAwTDEyLjcgMjc4LjZjLTkuNC05L\" d=\"M23.838,40.5l.991.991a1.067,1.067,0,0,1,0,1.513l-8.673,8.678a1.067,1.067,0,0,1-1.513,0L5.965,43.008a1.067,1.067,0,0,1,0-1.513l.991-.991a1.073,1.073,0,0,1,1.531.018L13.611,45.9V33.071A1.069,1.069,0,0,1,14.682,32h1.428a1.069,1.069,0,0,1,1.071,1.071V45.9l5.124-5.379a1.065,1.065,0,0,1,1.531-.018Z\" transform=\"translate(-5.65 -32)\" fill=\"#fab500\" \/>\n                                        <\/svg>\n                                        <span>Consider counselling<\/span>\n                                    <\/div>\n                                <\/button>\n                            <\/h2>\n                            <div id=\"collapseelement4136317\" class=\"accordion-collapse collapse\" aria-labelledby=\"headingelement4136317\" data-bs-parent=\"#accordionStowe\">\n                                <div class=\"accordion-body\">\n                                    <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Go with an open mind and the will to change and counselling can potentially transform your relationship. It can be hard going at times and you may feel worse before you feel better but challenging the beliefs and stories that you tell yourself about your relationship you can make a difference.\u00a0 Go alone or together \u2013 pick the option that works best for you.<\/span>                                <\/div>\n                            <\/div>\n                        <\/div>\n\n\n                    \n                        \n                        <div class=\"accordion-item\">\n                            <h2 class=\"accordion-header\" id=\"headingelement2529749\">\n                                <button class=\"accordion-button collapsed\" type=\"button\" data-bs-toggle=\"collapse\" data-bs-target=\"#collapseelement2529749\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"collapseelement2529749\">\n                                    <div class=\"title-button\">\n                                        <svg xmlns=\" http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"19.493\" height=\"20\" viewBox=\"0 0 19.493 20\">\n                                            <path id=\"svg_xml_base64_PHN2ZyB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciIHZpZXdCb3g9IjAgMCA0NDggNTEyIj48cGF0aCBkPSJNNDEzLjEgMjIyLjVsMjIuMiAyMi4yYzkuNCA5LjQgOS40IDI0LjYgMCAzMy45TDI0MSA0NzNjLTkuNCA5LjQtMjQuNiA5LjQtMzMuOSAwTDEyLjcgMjc4LjZjLTkuNC05L\" data-name=\"svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciIHZpZXdCb3g9IjAgMCA0NDggNTEyIj48cGF0aCBkPSJNNDEzLjEgMjIyLjVsMjIuMiAyMi4yYzkuNCA5LjQgOS40IDI0LjYgMCAzMy45TDI0MSA0NzNjLTkuNCA5LjQtMjQuNiA5LjQtMzMuOSAwTDEyLjcgMjc4LjZjLTkuNC05L\" d=\"M23.838,40.5l.991.991a1.067,1.067,0,0,1,0,1.513l-8.673,8.678a1.067,1.067,0,0,1-1.513,0L5.965,43.008a1.067,1.067,0,0,1,0-1.513l.991-.991a1.073,1.073,0,0,1,1.531.018L13.611,45.9V33.071A1.069,1.069,0,0,1,14.682,32h1.428a1.069,1.069,0,0,1,1.071,1.071V45.9l5.124-5.379a1.065,1.065,0,0,1,1.531-.018Z\" transform=\"translate(-5.65 -32)\" fill=\"#fab500\" \/>\n                                        <\/svg>\n                                        <span>Moving on<\/span>\n                                    <\/div>\n                                <\/button>\n                            <\/h2>\n                            <div id=\"collapseelement2529749\" class=\"accordion-collapse collapse\" aria-labelledby=\"headingelement2529749\" data-bs-parent=\"#accordionStowe\">\n                                <div class=\"accordion-body\">\n                                    <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, whether it\u2019s a new beginning or the beginning of the end, taking time now will help you make a clear decision and hopefully will help you both move forward in your relationship or have an amicable and considered separation.<\/span>                                <\/div>\n                            <\/div>\n                        <\/div>\n\n\n                    \n                <\/div>\n\n            \n        <\/div>\n\n    \n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_expiration-date-status":"","_expiration-date":0,"_expiration-date-type":"","_expiration-date-categories":[],"_expiration-date-options":[]},"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk\/client-support\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/25"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk\/client-support\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk\/client-support\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk\/client-support\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk\/client-support\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=25"}],"version-history":[{"count":22,"href":"https:\/\/www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk\/client-support\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/25\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1956,"href":"https:\/\/www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk\/client-support\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/25\/revisions\/1956"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk\/client-support\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=25"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}