Who can best care for a newly bereaved child? (from Solicitors Journal)

Family Law|July 1st 2015

We all understand that divorce is a traumatic event, and made even more so if there are children involved. Factor in a family death and the trauma rises to an unimaginable degree.

This was highlighted recently with the emotive case, Re E-R (A Child), where a mother dying of breast cancer wished her five-year-old daughter, referred to as T, to be brought up by supportive family friends who were already caring for both of them, rather than by the estranged father who had not played an active part in the child’s life for some years.

The judge in the Truro Family Court initially ruled in favour of the father, despite the fact that the separation had been acrimonious and he had moved away. The family friends appealed and the verdict was overturned in the Court of Appeal, leaving the child settled in the care of the friends as her mother had wished and at her current school where she was thriving.

This highly emotional case underscores the essential legal point that the test in law is that the welfare of the child is paramount. Questions need to be asked regarding who can take best care of a newly bereaved child, understand their needs, give them the best support to grieve and move forward, and eventually recover from their parent’s death?

In this case, the original judgment was based partly on a ‘broad, natural parent presumption in existence under the law,’ which helped award care to T’s estranged father.

However, Lady Justice King found that the original judge had erred, pointing out that parenthood is only significant in law in as far as it contributes to the child’s welfare. Applying the welfare test, the family friends were deemed to be in the best position to care for the child. It doesn’t mean that her father is cut out of her life, but that it will take time for a relationship with him to be rekindled and nurtured.

All this begs the broader question as to what a parent can do to safeguard the future care of their child? In some cases, grandparents may be seen as appropriate carers, but the court must consider factors such as their age and state of health as to whether they can realistically meet the welfare needs of the child.

Financial matters also require consideration. If a parent is making financial provisions in their will for their child, they might consider splitting control so that a portion of the finances are held by a trustee who is not the primary carer. This can help meet the child’s day-to-day and longer term needs and stop potential conflicts of interest.

Divorce, parental death, and child bereavement taken separately are events of extreme distress. This recent case proves that, should the worst happen, parents need to be aware that in law the welfare of the child is paramount, and act accordingly.

This article was first published by Solicitors Journal, and is reproduced by kind permission

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  1. Devil's Advoate says:

    A sad and important point. Valid and realistic. Apart from one point.
    If the child had been estranged from the father, was this parent estranged due to their own choice of for the child resisting contact in the first place.
    The recent legal precedent as I was informed in the Supreme Court in the USA has a greater dimension across civilised democracies in view of their description of Parental Alienation Syndrome being an effective abuse mechanism used by one parent with their associated maternal or paternal members with malice aforethought to abusively influence the child or children against the other family members; this is domestic violence and an intractable indefensible position by such perpetrators. It is similar to those actions of the Nazi and ex Soviet regime (and that still extant in other despot regimes).
    Yes what the second Court made a relevant judgement but has now to become more professional in its interpretation and if the above was the major factor then the estranged father should be encouraged to be not the winner of their child’s heart and soul but reintroduced for the child to realise that the loss of their mother can be at least reintroduced into their position as Sir James Mumby has reinstated on many occasions that parental responsibility is a “moral reality primarily” and the child will know that Mum and Dad (and all in their family) are important to their best interests. It is called living in a civilised society; not a black and white one which official bodies charged with child protection should be more professionally directed to understand and act with such realistic pragmatism

  2. Anonymous says:

    If the father made an application, it should be more than obvious that he was not estranged of his own volition, but as a result of the emotional violence perpetrated by the mother and supported by courts whose function is to adminiter this violence toward children.

  3. The Devil's Advocate says:

    Well written Anonymous. This is why in a civilised society have laws realised still in the Garrow “legal period” of 200 years ago at the time of civilised societies greatest hero’s, William (and Barbara) Wilberforce, Tom.Clarkson and John Newton!

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