In England and Wales, grandparents do not have an automatic legal right to see or spend time with their grandchildren. When family relationships break down (whether through parental separation, dispute, or other difficult circumstances) grandparents can find themselves cut off from a grandchild’s life without any obvious legal recourse. Understanding what the law does and does not provide, and what options are available, is an important first step.
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Can a lawyer help you get access to your grandchildren?
Grandparents do not have an automatic legal right to see their grandchildren. However, a family lawyer can help. The courts in England and Wales recognise the important role grandparents can play. If grandparents are denied contact and have attempted to resolve the issue privately or through mediation, they can apply to the court to gain contact through a Child Arrangements Order to have contact. Using a lawyer to help in this complex area of family law is strongly advisable.
Can grandparents get custody of their grandchildren?
Yes, they can but as they have no automatic legal rights, grandparents must apply to the family court to obtain custody or parental responsibility for their grandchildren. This can be via a Child Arrangements Order or a Special Guardianship Order. The court will always prioritise what is in the best interests of the children involved. A family lawyer can help grandparents navigate this very complex area of law.
How much does it cost to get grandparents’ rights in the UK?
The cost of obtaining grandparent’s rights will depend on the complexity of the issues and the time it takes to reach an agreement. Depending on how easily the issues are resolved, people may need to factor in legal, mediation and court fees. In complex cases, this can run into the thousands. A family lawyer could advise on potential costs in more detail.
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Grandparents in England and Wales do not have an automatic legal right to see or spend time with their grandchildren. This is one of the most common misconceptions in family law, and it can come as a shock – particularly if your relationship with your grandchild has previously been close and consistent.
The absence of an automatic right does not mean you are without options. Courts in England and Wales recognise the value that grandparents bring to a child’s life, and it is rare for a court to deny contact without good reason. The law under the Children Act 1989 makes clear that the child’s welfare is the paramount consideration. In many cases, maintaining a relationship with grandparents is considered to be in a child’s best interests.
Before making any application to the family court, you are required to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM), unless an exemption applies – for example, where domestic abuse is involved. Mediation gives all parties an opportunity to reach an agreed arrangement without the need for court proceedings, which is often a less stressful and more constructive outcome for everyone, especially the children.
If mediation is unsuccessful or unsuitable, a Child Arrangements Order or another form of court order may be the appropriate next step. A solicitor can help you understand which route is most suitable for your circumstances.
If you’ve attempted to reach an informal agreement with the child’s parents through mediation and it’s unsuccessful, the next step is to consult a family lawyer. A family lawyer can help you seek permission to apply for a court order and navigate the process of obtaining a child arrangements order.
The first step is to apply for permission to proceed with an application for contact with grandchildren, before officially seeking an order from the court.
read moreIf permission to proceed is given you can make an application for a Child Arrangements Order that will set out what types of contact should take place between you and the children (e.g. video and telephone calls, or face-to-face contact) and how frequently that should happen.
The court will consider all the information related to your case before making a decision. The overall consideration of the court is what is in the best interests of the children and, to determine this they consider the welfare checklist which includes things such as the child(ren)’s wishes and feelings, emotional and educational needs, and the likely impact of any changes in circumstances.
If the court grants you rights to see you grandchild, the child’s parent or carers cannot continue to prevent access.
Unlike a parent, a grandparent cannot apply directly for a Child Arrangements Order – you must first obtain the court’s permission, known as ‘leave’, before your application can proceed. The exception to this is where the child has lived with you for at least one year prior to the application, in which case you may be entitled to apply without first seeking leave (Children Act 1989, sections 10(5) and 10(5B)).
When considering whether to grant leave, the court will take into account a range of factors set out in section 10(9) of the Children Act 1989, including:
If leave is granted, you can then make a full application for a Child Arrangements Order. This order sets out with whom the child is to live, spend time, or have contact, and when. At this stage, the child’s welfare becomes the court’s paramount consideration, guided by the ‘welfare checklist’ in section 1(3) of the Children Act 1989. This includes the child’s own wishes and feelings (considered in light of their age and maturity), their physical, emotional and educational needs, and any harm they have suffered or may be at risk of.
The ‘no order’ principle also applies: The court will only make an order if doing so would genuinely further the child’s welfare. Where appropriate, a skilled solicitor may be able to guide you towards mediation services to help prevent matters from escalating to a contested hearing.
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A Special Guardianship Order (SGO) is a legal arrangement typically used when a child cannot safely live with their birth parents and needs a stable, secure home with another trusted adult – often a grandparent or other close relative.
An SGO awards parental responsibility on the special guardian, allowing them to make day-to-day decisions about the child’s upbringing, including schooling and medical care. Importantly, an SGO does not sever the legal relationship between the child and their birth parents, unlike adoption. However, the special guardian can exercise their parental responsibility to the exclusion of the birth parents in most circumstances.
There are some limits to an SGO. For example, a special guardian cannot change the child’s surname or remove them from the jurisdiction of England and Wales for more than three months without the consent of all those who hold parental responsibility.
To apply for an SGO as a grandparent, at least one of the following must apply:
If you are unsure whether an SGO is the right option, our solicitors can discuss the full range of alternatives and help you decide on the best course of action for your grandchild.
Grandparents can adopt a grandchild in some circumstances, but it is unusual and the court will only approve it if adoption is in the child’s best interests. In England and Wales, adoption is a permanent legal step that ends the child’s legal relationship with their birth parents and transfers parental responsibility to the adoptive parent or parents.
Even where a grandparent is caring for a child, the court will usually consider whether a less permanent order would better meet the child’s needs. That said, adoption by a grandparent can sometimes be appropriate. For example, it may arise where a parent is unable to care for the child and consents to adoption. In cases like this, the court may view placement within the wider family more favourably than placement outside it.
Adoption should always be approached with care. It is not a step the court will take lightly, and grandparents considering it should also look at alternatives such as a Special Guardianship Order, which may provide the child with stability without ending the legal relationship with their birth parents.
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In England and Wales, grandparents do not have an automatic legal right to contact with their grandchildren.
However, UK family courts acknowledge the significant role grandparents play in a grandchild’s life.
In some cases the family courts may grant permission for grandparents to apply to the Court for a Child Arrangements Order so that they can spend time with their grandchild(ren) provided there is no record of violence, neglect, or abuse.
Yes. As the law doesn’t automatically give grandparents rights to see their grandchildren, parents or carers can refuse contact.
However, if the issue escalates to the family court and a Child Arrangement Order is made allowing contact between the grandparents and the grandchild, parents are legally required to allow the contact to take place, as per the order.
Failure to do so can lead to enforcement by the court, potentially resulting in penalties such as unpaid work, fines, or in rare cases, imprisonment.
If a parent stops you from having contact with their child, as their grandparent you have no legal backing to insist on seeing them.
If you’re being prevented from seeing your grandchildren, there are two key options:
In the first instance, if negotiations between you and the parents or carers are unsuccessful, we recommend you reach out to a professional family mediator. A mediator can explore options and help find solutions to the issues preventing access so you can re-establish an informal agreement and begin contact with your grandchildren.
If you aren’t able to reach an agreement via mediation, you can take your case to the family court and seek permission to apply for a child arrangements order with the support of a family lawyer.
In most cases, no. Grandparents are first required to seek the court’s permission before making an application for a Child Arrangements Order. The main exception is where the child has lived with you for at least a year. A solicitor can advise you on whether your circumstances qualify for an exception.
At every stage, the child’s welfare is the court’s primary concern. The court will consider the child’s wishes and feelings (in accordance with their age and maturity), their physical and emotional needs, any risk of harm, and how capable those around them are of meeting their needs. Your history of contact with the grandchild and the nature of the relationship will also be relevant.
Not necessarily. Many families reach an agreement through informal discussions or with the support of a family mediator. If contact cannot be agreed, you are required to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) before applying to court, unless an exemption applies. More than 80% of Stowe’s cases are resolved without going to court, so we can help you achieve this outcome.
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