How do I get divorced? A five-step guide to ending your marriage

Divorce|July 4th 2018

Whether you want to start divorce proceedings or have been served a divorce petition, knowing where to start and how to get divorced can be daunting.

So, let’s start with this, marriages do end. Couples do get divorced. In fact, more than 100,000 marriages in England and Wales end in divorce a year. So, one thing you are not is alone.

Second, put very simply, divorce is the administrative process you take to dissolve a marriage in the eyes of the law with five clear steps:

  1. Decide on the legal reasons on which you wish to rely for divorce
  2. Complete a divorce petition
  3. Submit the petition to a divorce centre either online or by post with the correct court fee
  4. Apply for a decree nisi (once the petition is acknowledged by your spouse)
  5. Apply for a decree absolute (6 weeks after you have the decree nisi)

And you’re divorced.

However, as in life and relationships, things are never that simple.  Whilst it is relatively simple to get a divorce it is important that you make arrangements for assets, property, money, children etc and you will need legal advice to make sure this is handled properly. It is very important that you have considered the financial consequences of your marriage breakdown before you finalise your divorce.

While we always highly recommend that you seek legal advice to protect yourself and your family, here’s a step by step guide about how to get divorced:

1 Decide the grounds for divorce

In English law, you must cite one of five reasons for divorce in support of your claim in your divorce petition that the marriage has irretrievably broken down.

Adultery – for this one it is worth noting that your ex-partner will have to formally admit to an affair otherwise you will need to have to prove it.

Behaviour – The most commonly used reason as it can cover multiple behaviours and issues.   You will have to put some details on the petition but the other party does not have to formally admit it. The relevant type of behaviour by your spouse is something which you should not be reasonably expected to live with.

Separation, two years – You have lived apart for two years and the other party agrees to the divorce.

Separation, five years – If the other party will not agree to a divorce, you must have lived separately for five years.

Desertion – this is something more than just separation, it is the abandonment of one party to the marriage by their spouse. It is a ground which is rarely used.

2 Complete a divorce petition

If it’s you who is starting divorce proceedings you are known as the ‘petitioner.’ Your spouse is the ‘respondent’.

You need to download and fill in a divorce petition which is basically an application for divorce.  You can download this here.

You will need to gather together details about you and your ex-partner. Please do refer to the guidance notes as they explain what each section means.

3 Submit the petition

Once the form is completed you need to supply your original marriage certificate or get an official copy – you can order one here – your own copies will not be accepted.

It is at this stage payment of the court fee is required (currently £550).

You can submit your petition in two ways: (England and Wales only)

Online

www.gov.uk/apply-for-divorce

You’ll need a debit or credit card to pay your fee online.

Apply by post

Send 3 copies of the form to your nearest divorce centre. Find yours here

The Court will send you a copy back, one to your spouse and keep a copy on file.  Send 4 copies if you have named someone who has committed adultery with your spouse.

You can pay by debit or credit card (the divorce centre will call you to take payment) or by cheque – made payable to ‘HM Courts and Tribunals Service.’

But what if there’s money to be sorted out?

There is a question about making a financial claim on the petition and you just tick a box, however, it is rarely that simple. Very few people know exactly what assets there are. Whilst you can find out what property, assets and income there is by yourself (a process called financial disclosure) we would strongly recommend getting legal advice so you are protected financially. It’s one thing to know what there is, however that doesn’t mean that you will know how those assets and financial resources including income should be distributed.

If you do not get a financial court order, you are leaving yourself open to any financial claims that can potentially be made in the future. It is much better to address those claims at the time of your divorce even if you are just closing them off.

You can download the form and submission details here.

What happens next:

Your application will be checked by the court and if it’s completed correctly you will be sent a notice that your application has been issued, a copy of your application and a case number.

A copy of the application will be served on your spouse who will have eight days to respond to say if they intend to defend the divorce.

If your ex-partner says in a form they send to the court called the acknowledgement of service form that they do not wish to defend the divorce petition then you can apply for a decree nisi which is the interim decree of divorce and basically means the court sees no reason why you cannot divorce.

4. Apply for a decree nisi

To get a decree nisi, read the guidance and then fill in the application for a decree nisi. Download a decree nisi application

Once the decree nisi has been pronounced you can apply after six weeks and one day to have the decree absolute granted. This is the formal court document that legally dissolves your marriage.

5. Apply for a decree absolute

You must complete a notice of application to the court who will check the time limits and there are no other reasons not to grant the divorce. If more than 12 months have passed since the decree nisi was pronounced then you will need to file a short statement confirming that you have not reconciled since the date of the nisi and that you have not had any further children together.

Complete a decree absolute

The court will send the decree absolute to both parties and you are divorced. Keep it safe, you will need to show if you wish to remarry.

You can find further forms and guidance on divorce, both marriage and civil partnerships here.

How long will a divorce take?

All in all, the process could take around five months to complete – provided both parties do everything required at the earliest opportunity. Delays by either side and disagreements over the financial issues are common factors that slow progress, making the process take longer.

One thing to be aware of when applying for decree absolute is that once it is pronounced you are no longer husband or wife. Should one of you die and the financial issues have not been resolved then you may not be entitled to any widow’s benefits from pensions or life policies. It is always prudent therefore to have considered the financial issues before you decide to apply for a decree absolute.

More information

You can find out more about the divorce process here or please call our Client Care Team on 0330 404 2168 to speak with one of our specialist family lawyers.

Author: Stowe Family Law

Comments(2)

  1. Andrew says:

    Five months?

    You jest – at least at Bury St Edmunds.

    In the good old days of local courts I got it done within a week (with the cooperation of the Respondent and the court and the DJ) so that my client could marry his partner before she died!

  2. Helen Dudden says:

    It could be easier, I’m sure.
    Blame free divorce, no humiliating your former partner. No building up resentment and anger.
    It’s geared up at present for the blame game.

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