Leading financial adviser Jodie Phelps explores how to manage the festive season as a single parent, focusing on tips and tricks for saving and planning a bugdet-friendly but magical Christmas.
The holidays can be magical, but for single parents, they can also feel overwhelming, especially the first Christmas after a separation. The emotions are raw, routines are new, and the pressure to create a “perfect” Christmas for your children can feel bigger than ever.
But here’s the important truth: spending lots of money doesn’t create a perfect Christmas. Think back to your own childhood Christmases. Your happiest memories likely weren’t about the presents you received. They were about the feelings, the traditions, and the time spent with loved ones. That’s exactly what matters for your children too.
Set a realistic budget
Before the festive season starts, list all expected costs: gifts, food, activities, travel. Be realistic about what you can afford. Allocate specific amounts for each category and stick to them. Even small savings make a difference and remove stress.
It’s helpful to have a budget planner so you can note everything down, especially when you’re going through divorce proceedings or coming out the other end. To help, here’s a planner you can download and complete, or edit to work best for you and your family.
Try the Five Gift Present Rule
The Five Gift Present Rule is a practical guide: each child receives one gift from five categories:
- Something they want
- Something they need
- Something to wear
- Something to read
- Something to do
This helps limit the number of presents, making each one more meaningful and encouraging thoughtful choices.
Focus on experiences, not extravagance
Meaningful memories come from shared experiences rather than expensive gifts. Consider these free or low-cost ideas:
- Visiting local Christmas lights or winter markets
- Baking and decorating Christmas treats together
- Crafting homemade decorations
- Watching festive films at home
- Going for wintery walks
- Attending free local events, carol services, or storytimes at libraries
- Making new family traditions, like creating a holiday playlist or board games evenings
Plan meals and festive treats in advance
Planning your meals can help reduce last-minute spending and food waste. Make a list, shop carefully, and consider batch cooking or freezing meals in advance. Simple homemade treats, like cookies or popcorn, can be just as festive and far cheaper than store-bought alternatives.
Smart shopping strategies
- Make a gift list and stick to it to avoid impulse buys
- Suggest a family/friendship secret santa rather than buying multiple gifts
- Compare prices online before purchasing
- Use loyalty points or cashback where possible
- Set spending limits with extended family to ease pressure
Resist ‘too good to be true’ deals
It’s easy to feel pressured by sales and adverts but buying more doesn’t equal giving more love. Think carefully before spending and focus on what will genuinely bring joy to your children.
Start new traditions
Your first Christmas as a single parent is also a chance to create meaningful new traditions. Maybe it’s a special morning routine, a yearly craft, or a shared activity that becomes your family’s unique celebration. These moments are what your children and you will remember!
Take care of yourself emotionally
It’s normal for this first separated Christmas to feel emotional. Allow yourself to feel those emotions and prioritise your own wellbeing. Do things for yourself rather than just focussing on everyone else!
Key takeaway
The holidays aren’t about how much money you spend, they’re about what you do, who you’re with, and the traditions you create. Planning carefully, embracing experiences over presents, and focusing on meaningful memories will help you and your children enjoy a festive season that’s truly special.
More about Jodie
Jodie is a leading financial planner with over 14 years of industry experience. She is passionate about helping her clients achieve their life goals. She takes away the stress of financial planning and breaks down the complexities of the financial world.
You can find out more about Jodie via her Instagram Women in Business network @wib_with_jodie, and her LinkedIn
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