A Belgian in his 60s has begun legal proceedings to have his marriage annulled after discovering that his wife of almost 20 years was born a man.
According to a report in the Belgian newspaper Het Nieuwsblad, the man, referred to as Jan, married the woman, who had been his au pair during a previous marriage, in 1993.
The 48 year-old woman , referred to as Monica, was like a “big sister” to the man’s children from his first marriage, according to the story. However, she later began to frequent night clubs and Jan found “amorous messages” from other men on Monica’s computer. Then he heard rumours.
“A friend told me that he had heard that Monica was actually a sex-changed man. I could not believe it. My son heard similar rumours,” Jan recalled. “I pushed her against the wall and said: Now I know the truth. Are you a man?”
She admitted that she had been.
“She then announced that she was born as a boy and that she had been operated on. She was now a woman, and so she did not need to tell me about her past as a man. My world collapsed. That evening came to blows. The police came.”
Jan is now undergoing psychiatric treatment. “I feel I’ve been assaulted” he told the newspaper.
To date the Belgian authorities have not let Jan evict Monica from the family home.
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