Husband filmed wife having tantrum and put it on YouTube – by Angela Sussens

Divorce|Relationships|July 25th 2013

A US husband recorded his 30 year-old having a temper tantrum during an argument, put it on YouTube, and then left her.

The woman, since identified as nurse Whitney Mongiat, is shown screaming and kicking a car dashboard after her husband tells her they can’t go to the local lake that weekend because he has to get his truck fixed.

Her husband, Jim, then tells her in the video:

“You’re acting like an 11-year-old who didn’t get the toy from Wal-mart.”

She responds:

“You are because you’re not taking your wife out on the lake that we’ve spent money for!”

Announcing that she is having a anxiety attack, Whitney goes on to tell her now estranged husband:

‘You have to stop and get me some cigarettes! I’m about to go crazy!…..I never get my way! I just want one day when I get my way – one day!!!”

Commenting on the video, the man claimed his wife’s behaviour had been “an ongoing thing” and that she had shown up late for marriage counselling.

He left her shortly after the row featured in the clip.

“That was the last day I lived in our house. I have moved out and filed a restraining order against her.”

After the video went viral, Mongiat hit back at her husband’s claims, saying she felt bullied and insisting that her husband had egged her on. She is now filing for divorce, she claims.

The video has since been removed from YouTube for violating the site’s “prohibiting content designed to harass, bully or threaten,” but is, of course, still freely available on other sites.

Comments on the Daily Mail site, which still hosts the video, are split between those criticizing the women for her poor behaviour and those saying Jim violated his wife’s trust by covertly filming his wife and then posting the video online without her consent.

While the wife claims her husband had promised her a trip to the lake, the husband insists he warned her all week that he would need to do chores on the Saturday in question. The details may differ but every couple has similarly mundane rows and disagreements from time to time. But of course,  not every couple responds to squabbles in such a dramatic fashion.

The husband is no doubt angry and as a result may have enjoyed humiliating his wife in this way. The wife has reportedly admitted to being embarrassed as friends, family and even co-workers have viewed the clip. Jim may live to regret posting the video if it causes his wife to lose her job or affects her ability to find one after their separation. That may directly affect his financial liabilities towards her in the resulting  settlement.

Once upon a time, a divorcing couple’s neighbours might hear their rows a few doors away. Now angry spouses can make arguments available to the whole world if they so wish.


Angela Sussens is based in Stowe Family Law Leeds city centre office. She joined Stowe Family Law as a trainee solicitor in 2004 and qualified in 2006. Angela has demonstrated an aptitude for all aspects of family law, and in particular financial settlements on divorce.

Angela regularly acts on behalf of high net worth clients in complex cases involving foreign jurisdictions, trusts, companies and offshore assets. Clients appreciate Angela’s attention to detail and her direct, straight to the point, approach.

Angela Sussens is a Partner at Stowe Family Law’s city centre office in Leeds. She has worked across all aspects of family law but has focused in particular on financial settlements following divorce. Angela regularly acts on behalf of high net worth clients in complex cases involving foreign jurisdictions, trusts, companies and offshore assets. Clients appreciate her attention to detail and her direct, straight to the point, approach.

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  1. Luke says:

    If it had been the other way round – does ANYBODY think the wife would have been criticised or – as is suggested in the piece above – would lose out financially in any way ?

    It wasn’t a particularly nice thing to do to tape her, but the fact she is receiving such a high level of support is so telling.

  2. Kevin says:

    Where is the hint “the husband is no doubt angry”. Those two words “no doubt” have no validity in your argument and sound like you may be writing from memory. Child abuse is likely in the woman’s history. I married an abused woman. So sad, like Jekyll and hyde.
    This womans Panic attacks, DUI probation, violent reactions hint she is “no doubt….” Something damaged in a woman’s body.
    Be more factual when you write.

  3. sandee says:

    This woman-child is not having an anxiety attack. One with anxiety doesn’t go from panicking to calmly texting in one split second. She is manipulating using aggression and then passive aggression. Though the husband does look like a tool and is more than likely an asswad judging by the lamb chop sideburns he sports, there are classier ways to handle it. One name comes to mind when I see this woman; Veruca Salt. She was exposed to herself and that is why she is embarrassed… and she ought to be!

  4. stephany says:

    this video wont do him any favors in court. U.S. judges look down upon these type of things. This isn’t the first time it has happened.

    He seeks to publicly humiliate her and he pushed her buttons just so he could get a divorce. By posting this on youtube, he just gave her the upper hand in court. Had he just kept it to himself, and used it in court or for his lawyer to use as leverage, it would be a different thing all together. Poor guy.

  5. Luke says:

    “this video wont do him any favors in court.”

    Let’s be honest, nothing is going to do him any favours in court 🙂
    It doesn’t appear that they have children so there is a limit to how hard they can screw him – maybe if they don’t like the video they can prolong the spousal support.

  6. Ivan Libya says:

    Here’s an idea, ladies, don’t want the world to know you’re batshit crazy, don’t act like it. The fact Jim recorded the incident is irrelevant, the fact that you acted like a petulant child just because you didn’t get your way, is the issue here. I’m glad he recorded AND posted it, good luck trying to fool another guy into thinking you’re normal. Same argument goes if she loses her job, HE didn’t act crazy and throw a tantrum, she did, so any repercussions that she incurs are rightly deserved.

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