Couples who post lots of photographs and status updates about their relationship are most likely trying to hide feelings of insecurity.
Australian relationship expert Nikki Goldstein has claimed that such people seek reassurance from others in order to feel better about their own relationships. Speaking to the Daily Mail, she said that “likes and comments can be so validating … when someone is really struggling”. That is where people get their positive feelings about the relationship, rather than from their partner.
Couples who put too much focus “on taking a ‘relfie’ – a relationship selfie” can often miss out on the moment itself she claimed, as people rush to post these images to Facebook, Twitter or Instagram “and then [watch] the likes and comments instead of being with their partners”.
Goldstein clarified that she was not advising against social media posts entirely, but suggested people “keep it fun and entertaining for people, not mushy and possessive”. Signs of possessiveness include captions referring to “my man” or “my girl”, she said.
These claims run counter to the results of a 2015 study from the University of Wisconsin-Madison. Researchers analysed the Facebook behaviour of more than 200 people in relationships over six months. They found that those who were affectionate over the social media platform were more likely to still be together at the end of the six months than those who did not.
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