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Anxiety during divorce: some warning signs

Going through a divorce can be one of the most difficult periods you can experience. It certainly represents a significant change in how you live your life day to day. Staying healthy will help you to deal with this transition and that applies to both your physical and mental wellbeing. So while stress is understandable, it is important to watch out for signs of something more serious: anxiety.

This is not to be confused with simply feeling uneasy, in the same way depression should not be confused with feeling sad. Many people do not understand how anxiety can affect people and can therefore be unsympathetic to those who suffer from it.

Divorce and separation is a time of significant upheaval and it is not uncommon to feel all at sea however sometimes those worries become all consuming. Here are a few signs that there may be more than just stress at play.

Some days you just can’t get out of bed

People who suffer from anxiety can become mentally and physically exhausted. What they’re going through can feel overwhelming and the urge to simply stay hidden in bed all day can be almost impossible to fight against. This goes beyond simply wanting a lie-in as the prospect of emerging from the sheets can seem daunting.

You worry about the future

This is an understandable concern while dealing with a divorce. Things are certainly about to change. But while some people look forward to what the future may hold, for others these thoughts create feelings of dread. Those struggling to deal with what is happening in the present may start to believe that the future can only get worse.

The worst case scenario is your main focus

Divorce is tough, but it does not have to be a life-ruining experience. To people with anxiety that can be a difficult concept to wrap their head around. They can become consumed with the thought that the worst possible outcome is somehow inevitable and that nothing can ever go right for them.

Obsessing over mistakes

People make mistakes. It is a fact of life that cannot be avoided. Most of the time, little missteps can be seen as just that and are used as something to learn from. This is not always true of those suffering from anxiety. A mistake will happen and they will spend hours, maybe even days, obsessing over it.

Do you have anxiety?

This is by no means a comprehensive list, but is merely designed to get you thinking about your mental health during a difficult time. If you believe you are suffering from anxiety, please consult a professional. Good mental health can make the process of divorce and separation so much easier to handle so getting help such as counselling or seeing your GP will be invaluable. It is not a sign of weakness but a sign that you are dealing with it.

The blog team at Stowe is a group of writers based across our family law offices who share their advice on the wellbeing and emotional aspects of divorce or separation from personal experience. As well as pieces from our family law solicitors, guest contributors also regularly contribute to share their knowledge.

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  1. Phoenix Men says:

    If the relationship is really over, learning to let go is important. If you spend months hankering for what has been lost, you may find yourself frozen, unable to move forwards or backward. Try listing all the positive things about your new situation. At first, you may find hardly anything to celebrate. Don’t worry. Concentrate on these and add to your list over time.

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