A married couple in the United States are planning to divorce in order to give their shared girlfriend legal rights as a parent.
Benno and Cristina Kaiser have been married for 12 years. They met while serving in the US Military Police Corps in Virginia and have since had three children. At some point in their marriage, Cristina suggested an ‘open relationship’. This would allow the two to see other people while they remained together.
Cristina met Sierra Kuntz while shopping in Las Vegas and after several dates the three formed what they now call a “tri-lationship”. Sierra eventually moved in with Kaiser family and the three now share a bed. When Benno and Cristina are at work, Sierra is the one who stays home to look after the children who are now six, seven and 11 years old.
In order for Sierra to receive legal recognition as a parent to the children, Cristina and Benno are planning to divorce so one of them can marry her. Benno, a 37 year-old legal assistant, said the move was “something that needed to be done in order for Sierra to understand the depth of how much we love her and want her to be part of our family”. However, the Kaisers have not yet decided which of them will officially marry Sierra.
Not only will she be “legally considered a parent to the children” once they go through with the plan, “it will show her that this is not a temporary thing, we both love her and it’s something that’s meant to be permanent” he added.
The couple’s children “have been very supportive of this” and have “understood” why it means so much to the family, Benno explained.
Last year, thousands of people signed an online petition calling for social network giant Facebook to recognise three-way relationships on user profiles. Currently polyamorous relationships are not recognised on the site.
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