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Top ten reasons why people get divorced

One thing about divorce is you are certainly not alone; in fact, 42% of marriages end in divorce in the UK.

And of those divorces, unreasonable behaviour (one of the five reasons you can use to divorce in England and Wales) is the most common with 36% of husbands and 51% of wives using this reason.

Unreasonable behaviour is a ‘catch-all’ term so what really sits behind this broad-brush statistic. Our expert divorce lawyers have given the ten most common reasons for divorce they see in their clients (not listed in any order).

An affair

Cheating is still one of the main drivers for divorce and often a point of no-return. Affairs destroy trust which many marriages cannot survive.

We grew apart

What people need changes. Over time marriages can fade into the background and become neglected. What is neglected, no longer grows.

Money troubles

Not necessarily a lack of money but more about how you choose to spend and save your money. A spendthrift and a frugal saver may face problems.

We don’t talk anymore

Communication is key. However how we communicate is personal. Some people like to talk – some people prefer not to share.  The art is getting the balance right for both people in the marriage.

All we do is argue

To argue or not? Some relationships thrive on regular (non-violent) arguments to clear the air.  Some don’t. The difficulty arises when arguing becomes the only form of communication left in a marriage.

We don’t agree on how to bring up the kids

Parenting is a personal approach, often founded on beliefs from childhood. Differences in parenting can quickly complicate a marriage and become a fiery fighting ground.

Addiction is an issue

Addiction is a disease that has far-reaching effects on the whole family, not just the addict. Many marriages cannot take the impact it creates.

It’s become a toxic relationship

Toxicity is not good for people in whatever format it takes. If a marriage or relationship feels toxic it is damaging to all involved.

Work/friends/family got in the way

Marriages and relationships need attention in a life that is full of distractions. Work, family, friends even an iPhone are all parts of life but when you are at home – focus on being there.

We fell out of love…

Love needs work. You cannot just tell someone you love them. You must show it. Stop showing it and it fades.

The blog team at Stowe is a group of writers based across our family law offices who share their advice on the wellbeing and emotional aspects of divorce or separation from personal experience. As well as pieces from our family law solicitors, guest contributors also regularly contribute to share their knowledge.

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  1. p webb says:

    Unfortunately my ex wife is and was addicted to gambling and it help destroy the trust and refused to accept she need some help and it grew to £130 a day and then was telling family schools and friends i was controlling . to be honest it was more about blame so ended for me.

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