One thing about divorce is you are certainly not alone; in fact, 42% of marriages end in divorce in the UK.
And of those divorces, unreasonable behaviour (one of the five reasons you can use to divorce in England and Wales) is the most common with 36% of husbands and 51% of wives using this reason.
Unreasonable behaviour is a ‘catch-all’ term so what really sits behind this broad-brush statistic. Our expert divorce lawyers have given the ten most common reasons for divorce they see in their clients (not listed in any order).
Cheating is still one of the main drivers for divorce and often a point of no-return. Affairs destroy trust which many marriages cannot survive.
We grew apart
What people need changes. Over time marriages can fade into the background and become neglected. What is neglected, no longer grows.
Not necessarily a lack of money but more about how you choose to spend and save your money. A spendthrift and a frugal saver may face problems.
We don’t talk anymore
Communication is key. However how we communicate is personal. Some people like to talk – some people prefer not to share. The art is getting the balance right for both people in the marriage.
All we do is argue
To argue or not? Some relationships thrive on regular (non-violent) arguments to clear the air. Some don’t. The difficulty arises when arguing becomes the only form of communication left in a marriage.
We don’t agree on how to bring up the kids
Parenting is a personal approach, often founded on beliefs from childhood. Differences in parenting can quickly complicate a marriage and become a fiery fighting ground.
Addiction is an issue
Addiction is a disease that has far-reaching effects on the whole family, not just the addict. Many marriages cannot take the impact it creates.
It’s become a toxic relationship
Toxicity is not good for people in whatever format it takes. If a marriage or relationship feels toxic it is damaging to all involved.
Work/friends/family got in the way
Marriages and relationships need attention in a life that is full of distractions. Work, family, friends even an iPhone are all parts of life but when you are at home – focus on being there.
We fell out of love…
Love needs work. You cannot just tell someone you love them. You must show it. Stop showing it and it fades.