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In sickness and in health: Alzheimer’s and divorce

This year World Alzheimer’s Day falls on Saturday, 21 September 2019. An international campaign, the day exists to raise awareness and highlight the issues people across the world affected by the disease face.

Current figures place over 850,000 people living with the disease in the UK but that figure is expected to rise to over 1-million by 2025. As more people face the disease, there is an inevitable increased impact on relationships, particularly couples and marriages.

We asked Rachel Roberts, Managing Partner, at the Stowe Family Law office in Leeds, who has experience of working on divorce cases where Alzheimer’s has been a factor, to explain some of the things you need to consider.

Alzheimer’s and divorce

Whilst we vow to stay together through sickness and health living with someone with Alzheimer’s and the behaviour that this can sometimes result in, is extremely difficult and can be heart-breaking to deal with.

The clients that I have advised who are spousal carers are often in a state of absolute despair. Torn between extreme guilt of wanting to ‘walk away’ and the many difficulties that they face if they stay, they are often feel trapped and must deal with loneliness, mood swings and sometimes aggressive behaviour. It is heart-breaking to see a disease destroy a marriage and a couple.

The purpose of this article is not to make a judgement as to whether it is the right thing to do or cruel to divorce someone with Alzheimer’s. Instead, it is to look at the legal side of the process and the complexities of these highly sensitive cases.

When one person is suffering from Alzheimer’s, or a similar illness, the process of obtaining a divorce and financial settlement can be more complicated and there are various issues that need to be considered.

Divorce or a judicial separation

Often the decision to seek a divorce can be fraught with guilt or sadness if the behaviour leading to the divorce arises from the illness, and a sensitive approach is needed.

For some people, the issue is around the protection of their assets (if the ill party is behaving recklessly with money), rather than the marriage being at an end. One option here is to explore a judicial separation so that a financial settlement can be achieved without ending the marriage.

Capacity to make decisions

Whether you go down the route of judicial separation or divorce, the first issue is to consider capacity, and whether the person with Alzheimer’s is legally considered able to make decisions and give instructions to a solicitor. In many cases, they will not be, and it is vital to understand this at the earliest opportunity and to obtain medical evidence.

If the person lacks capacity in the eyes of the law, this does not prevent the Court dealing with divorce and financial remedy proceedings, but an application would need to be made to Court for someone to act as a litigation friend for the person with the disease.

A litigation friend

A litigation friend will essentially make decisions on their behalf and step into their shoes. Ideally, this would be a family member or friend, and in some cases, the incapacitated party may already have someone appointed a power of attorney or there may be a court-appointed deputy who can fill that role.

If that is not the case, the ‘Official Solicitor’ can step in and fill that role. However, my experience of this is that it can result in significant delays and additional costs. The Official Solicitor on one of my cases was (perhaps understandably) very cautious in negotiations which resulted in the matter proceeding to a contested hearing. However, this may be the only option available if there is no other suitable person.

Other issues

Aside from the legal practicalities, a person with Alzheimer’s may also have increased needs, for example, if they have carers, or are in a residential home. The Court must consider both party’s needs when deciding what financial awards to make, and this may, therefore, be a factor that impacts upon the settlement.

Next steps

Our team has experience in acting in divorces and financial settlements were one of the parties is suffering from an illness that means a litigation friend is involved. You can make an online enquiry here or call our client care team below.

Extra support

If you are finding your relationship difficult there are charities like Dementia UK and Alzheimer’s Society that offer support and advice.

Rachel has been with the firm for over 17 years and as Regional Director in the North, heads up the Yorkshire team across Beverley, Harrogate, Huddersfield, Ilkley, Leeds, Sheffield, Wetherby and York. Known for her caring and compassionate approach, she builds an excellent rapport with clients, leaving them feeling confident and reassured as she guides them to the right outcome for them.

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