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How long do you have to be separated before divorce?

If you are divorcing on the grounds of separation you will need to have been separated for two years (if you both agree) or five years (if you don’t agree) before you can start the process. 

If you are looking to issue a divorce petition immediately, it has to be based on complaints of behaviour or adultery. Unfortunately, we do not have the ‘no-fault’ divorce that we keep being promised although the Divorce, Dissolution and Separation Bill is passing through parliament (read the latest update here). 

How long do you have to be separated before divorce?

The options to divorce on the grounds of separation are as follows: 

  • 2 years separation with consent
  • 2 years desertion
  • 5 years separation without consent

2 years separation with consent

Always be mindful here that if your former spouse will not agree to this petition, then it will not proceed. However, getting a divorce without consent is still possible.

In practice, I always write to a potential Respondent (the person receiving the divorce petition) and obtain their written consent at the outset before a petition is issued. 

The reason for this is primarily due to costs. There is a court issue fee of £550. If you lodge your petition and the Respondent refuses to co-operate, not only is the court fee wasted (as well as the costs of preparing the petition) but you would be unable to progress any further. 

It then becomes necessary to withdraw this petition with the inherent costs of that. You will be left having to start a petition based on a different ground. 

2 years desertion  

These petitions are incredibly rare and indeed in many years of practice, I have yet to come across one. I think the issue with this petition is that it can be difficult to prove desertion

Most couples will simply use the two-year separation with consent instead. Another point is that if someone has truly deserted then you may not know their address which makes it difficult to start the process and get them served with the papers in any event.  

5 years separation 

These petitions are very easy. No consent is required from the Respondent. In practice, they are however very rare because usually, couples want to dissolve marriages much earlier. 

Although the Respondent does not need to give his or her consent to the petition, you do need to show that they have received the paperwork. 

The most common issue with this petition is if you do not know where the Respondent is living and need to locate them which may be difficult. 

Frequently asked questions about divorce and separation 

How do I prove we have separated? 

The Petitioner signs a Statement in Support of the petition at stage 2. At this point, you ‘attest’ that the date of separation in your petition is true. 

How long do you have to be separated before divorce is automatic?

I have had many clients say to me that they thought that the divorce ‘happened automatically’ after a lengthy separation. 

This is not correct. You would still have to issue your petition and go through all of the required stages no matter what petition you use. It will usually take 5-7 months from the start of the process to obtain the decree absolute – all depending upon how busy your local court is.  

 The issue of finances will need to be dealt with if any still exist between you and your spouse. Generally, on separation, the finances have already been dealt with. 

This can then result in either people not looking at the financial situation or (more commonly) the structure of the financial deal that was agreed at separation is put into a court order which is then approved by a District Judge to finalise financial matters for good. 

In practice, the most common divorce petitions we see are those based on behaviour and adultery however, there are options open to couples who are willing to wait for the appropriate separation period. 

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Helen is Managing Partner of the Stowe Family Law Altrincham, Liverpool, Chester and Crewe offices. She practises all areas of family law but her main areas of expertise are resolving private disputes involving children, and advising on advanced financial provision following divorce or dissolution.

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  1. Sam Mazella says:

    Divorce is a big move. A couple who have children should not only decide for themselves but should also think about the future of their child. Deciding to end a marriage is the start of thinking about how to co-parent effectively.
    Many circumstances will follow.

    Thanks for sharing this very important matter, Lesley.

  2. Andrew says:

    My marriage ended in 2007, We made a financial settlement through a lawyer regarding the house etc. Taking the above into consideration has Our marriage Automatically totally ceased now???

    • Sally Shakespeare says:

      Hi Andrew. Thank you for your question which I have passed to our Client Care team who will be in touch. Best wishes

  3. Pri says:

    Iv been seperatered for 10 years now. How quickly can i get a divorce and how much will it cost

    • Sally Shakespeare says:

      Hi. Thanks for getting in touch. I have passed your query to our Client Care Team who will be in touch. Best wishes

  4. Joe says:

    I recently found out that my divorce was never filed with the court after I signed the papers in 2007. I paid 8 years of child support at almost 500.00 dollars a week for my son. How can I file on my own?

    • Sally Shakespeare says:

      Hi. Thank you for your question which I have passed on to our Client Care Team to respond. Best wishes

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