The current Coronation Street storyline involving Todd Grimshaw and Theo Silverton has sparked important conversations about coercive control, gaslighting, and domestic abuse. While the storyline is fictional, the behaviours portrayed reflect patterns that are all too real for many people.
In a recent article, Senior Associate Judit Kerese explains that coercive control is not defined by one single act, but by a pattern of behaviour designed to dominate, isolate and undermine another person. This form of abuse is now recognised in UK law, yet it often goes unnoticed until serious harm has occurred.
By looking at Todd and Theo’s relationship through a legal and practical lens, we can better understand how coercive control works, and the warning signs to look out for.
What is coercive control?
Coercive control is a form of domestic abuse involving repeated or continuous behaviour that restricts a person’s freedom and autonomy. It can include manipulation, intimidation, isolation, monitoring, and gaslighting.
As Judit explains, coercive control often starts subtly. Behaviour that appears caring or protective at first can slowly become controlling, leaving the victim confused and doubting their own judgment.
In the case of Todd and Theo, this pattern is clear. Theo initially presents as charming and attentive, gaining trust and sympathy. Over time, however, his behaviour escalates into manipulation and domination – a hallmark of coercive control.
Gaslighting and manipulation
Gaslighting is one of the most damaging elements of coercive control. It involves making the victim question their own memory, perception or reality.
In Coronation Street, Theo repeatedly reframes events so that Todd believes he is at fault. At the same time, Theo manipulates the narrative presented to friends and colleagues, portraying Todd as unstable or difficult. This dual manipulation isolates Todd further and reinforces Theo’s control.
In real-world cases, this type of gaslighting often prevents victims from seeking help, as they no longer trust their own instincts.
Isolation from friends, family and work
Isolation is a common tactic in coercive control. By limiting access to support networks, the abuser increases dependency.
Todd’s growing distance from friends and colleagues mirror how coercive control often operates. Theo undermines relationships, causes conflict, and interferes with Todd’s working life – tactics frequently seen in abusive relationships.
Victims may appear to withdraw ‘by choice’, but that choice is often shaped by fear, pressure and emotional manipulation.
Controlling behaviour disguised as care
One of the most insidious aspects of coercive control is how it can be disguised as generosity or concern.
In Todd and Theo’s storyline, gifts such as a car or fitness equipment are framed as thoughtful gestures. However, they later become tools for monitoring Todd’s movements, routines and behaviour. What appears outwardly kind becomes another method of control.
This aligns with real-life cases where gifts, finances or housing are used to exert power and enforce compliance.
Escalation to physical abuse
Although coercive control is often psychological and emotional, it can escalate into physical violence. This escalation is clearly portrayed in the storyline, highlighting the real dangers of ignoring early warning signs.
UK law recognises that coercive control can cause serious harm even before physical violence occurs, and that escalation is a known risk where controlling behaviour goes unchecked.
Coercive control in same-sex relationships
Coercive control can occur in any relationship, regardless of gender or sexuality. However, victims in same-sex relationships may face additional barriers to recognition and support.
Stereotypes around domestic abuse (including the belief that men cannot be victims) can make individuals less likely to speak out or be believed. This makes awareness, education and legal understanding especially important.
Todd and Theo’s storyline challenges these assumptions and highlights that domestic abuse does not have a single ‘look’.
The legal perspective
Since 2015, coercive and controlling behaviour has been a criminal offence in England and Wales. The law recognises patterns of behaviour that cause fear, distress, or a serious impact on a person’s daily life.
Understanding coercive control, and recognising it early, can be crucial in protecting victims and holding perpetrators accountable. As Judit explains, legal advice can play an important role in helping individuals understand their options and access support.
Getting help and support
If you or someone you know recognises these signs, help is available:
- National Domestic Abuse Helpline (UK): 0808 2000 247
- Men’s Advice Line (UK): 0808 801 0327
- Refuge: www.refuge.org.uk
Coercive control is domestic abuse. It is never the victim’s fault, and support is available.
Useful links
Spotting the early signs of abuse in relationships
